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I still have a (relatively) young back.  I can take the criticism. 

The bottom line is that the forum rules do not demand that users always be polite.  Moderation can be taken to extremes, and if I don't want to be alone here with Katatonia and Kahless (not that that would be bad for me, but I imagine it would get boring for them), we have to allow some leeway.

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My personal opinion is that if someone has to have their posts edited several times daily to remove content deemed inappropriate, a temporary ban should be imposed.  Repeat infractions should have an increasingly longer ban.

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One improvement I would personally like to see though. Is when I click the red arrow to have a (even short) text field for a reason for the red arrow. So I could put in something like...

- Name Calling
- Bypassing Profanity Filter
- Spam

So that the moderators at least understand why the red arrow was clicked.

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Tried to keep myself out of here,

but some of you seem to forget that there are at least three other users who get heavily moderated. Just because these usually get moderated for (sometimes even unprovoked) attacking the already adressed user, doesn't make this any better. One of them even admits that he's trolling on purpose.

It's either all or none

This forum is, as surfeur would surely support, in wide areas an unfriendly place. This is NOT caused by a single user (how could this be) but by a whole bunch of them who seem to need a highly aggressive discussion to polish their ruffled egos. Many of them can be found in this thread, all screaming for bans.
Once more: If bans, then for all that behave inappropriate.

For those of us who care for a more friendly environment: this might help:

- If you don't have anything use- or helpful (or at least humorous) to ad to the discussion: Stay out, there will be other topics when your opinion is asked again.

- If you get attacked in a discussion you need to distinguish between:

a) attack on your opinion: This usually is OK, that's what I'd call discussion.

b) attack on your person: NOT OK, feel free to use the "Red Arrow", but under no circumstance respond to the attack, the average attack will soon stop if there's no response.

c) Don't mix up a) and b) !!

- Even though Ken stated above that politeness is not necessarily a required attribute in these forums do not adress other users in a way that you wouldn't want to be adressed.

- THINK before you write (it's not illegal yet)

- Don't ask what the Mods can do to make this a better place (except if you are a Mod), do what you can do to achieve this goal.

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I live by the attitude of changing those things I have the power to change and not getting upset by those things I can't change.  I can change me, so I ignore people, ignore threads or just leave.  I can't change others which includes Ken, Invelos, moderators and particular users.  I can request that things change, but that's all I can do.  And since I have no power over those who can grant my requests, I just move along after voicing my opinion.

I just don't understand how you can get through life otherwise.  There are jerks everywhere, not just this site.

So I come here, read what I'm interested in, reply to things I wish to reply to, then move along.  My participation may be different if the atmosphere were different.  But until that happens, I see no point in upsetting myself.  Not when I have the power to just walk away.  At the end of the day, my life would not be greatly improved by a change in these forums.  It might be more fun to visit, but it really wouldn't be a life changing experience.  At the same time, I refuse to allow it to have a negative impact on my life.

Of course they're not my users / potential customers ($$$) being chased away.  So I have the luxury of not caring.